Nan, I apologize for being so remiss in thanking you for your earlier comment. I wanted to make sure you knew I appreciated what you posted, because I think it very accurately interprets Swindoll's intent.
Yes, I call those people "Other people's children"!
Another quote that I love is one by Abe Lincoln,
"Most people are as happy as they make up their minds to be."
I think that if we all realized that no one else is responsible for MAKING US happy, we can only choose to BE happy (or not), most of us would be much happier!
I think you (and Abe) got it right. Sometimes, ya know, we commit some grevious error in life, but then, we are only human. . .that's the way God planned it
We aren't infallible, we are prone to err. . .the wonderful things are that often, we can see and LEARN from our mistakes so that we can (a) not have to make the mistake again and (b) empathize and assist others going through the same experiences we have had and (c) [which I prolly should have listed 1st], if you believe in and ask Him, God forgives us. . .we should be able to forgive ourselves and move on.
Now, all that aside. . .again, we are only human and not only prone to err, but also prone to wearing hair shirts (mine is becoming a size too small lately)
Once we see and realize our errors, we often find it exceedingly difficult to forgive ourselves. I TRY to tell myself my happiness is in my own hands and that if God can forgive me, then surely I can forgive myself. . .not as easy a task as it might sound. Also, forgiving ones self doesn't always mean that any victim(s) of your act forgive you and/or forgiving yourself too lightly can also cause others some pain.
Philosophy 101 is excused. Y'all go have a great day!